Monthly Archives: November 2023

Pianos In Our Family

In this photo, I am singing at the piano in my grandparents’ home in Drake Saskatchewan with my sister in the 1950s. My grandparents bought this piano when my mother was a young girl and she often played the piano for my grandparents when they sang duets together in church.

Here Mom sings and plays her Heintzman piano with me and my sister in the mid-1950s in our house on Home Street in Winnipeg. I can still remember some of the songs like Out in The Zoo and Peter Has New Shoes which Mom taught us when we were little.

My parents had to make do with very little early on in their marriage because my Dad was a full-time student and they had three small children to care for but Mom was never without a piano. Sometimes I think that playing music was as necessary to her as breathing.

My Mom and my sister at the Heintzman piano in our tiny apartment in the interns’ residence at the St. Boniface Hospital one of our Winnipeg homes.

I started taking piano lessons when we moved to Steinbach when I was eight. My parents hadn’t been able to afford lessons till then because Dad was still finishing medical school and his residency.

Practicing piano at age ten in our house on the highway in Steinbach. I took piano lessons from Elsie Rempel in Steinbach for many years.

When I was a teenager my sister and I were featured in the local paper standing beside Mom’s Heintzman piano because we had done well at the Music Festival in Winnipeg playing in many different kinds of competitions including one for duets. We were studying piano with Lydia Wiebe in Winnipeg at the time and my Mom drove us to the city every week for our lessons.

My mother had always wanted a grand piano and when she finally got one she gave her old Heintzman piano to my husband and me. Here our oldest son sits at the Heintzman after we moved it to our first house in Steinbach.

When my parents celebrated their 25th wedding anniversary on Henry Street in Steinbach my sister and I posed in our wedding dresses with Mom in her bridal gown beside her beloved grand piano.

Mom playing the piano for Christmas carol singing with my grandmother in the foreground

My Dad’s parents had a piano in their home and my sister and I always had to play pieces on it for our grandparents before we received our Christmas presents. There was lots of carol singing too at our Christmas gatherings with my paternal grandparents. My Mom or one of my father’s three sisters who were pianists as well accompanied on the piano.

Our son plays the guitar with his Grandma on the piano for carol singing

Our Christmas family gatherings at the country home near Steinbach my parents built in the 1980s always included carol singing with Mom at the piano doing her signature key change segues from one song to the other and often accompanied by one or more of her children or grandchildren who played their instruments along with her.

Mom on the piano with my brother on the violin and my brother-in-law on the cello
My niece plays a piano duet at Christmas with her grandmother
Mom on the piano with one grandson on clarinet and another on trombone.

My husband and I kept Mom’s old Heintzman piano for decades. Both our sons took piano lessons as children and practised on the Heintzman. Here it is in our condo in Winnipeg shortly after we moved into it in 2011. Mom was quite ill at the time and in a wheelchair but she still wanted to try her hand at playing her old piano.

Our two daughters-in-law and our grandson sing at my mother’s old piano at my sister’s house at Christmas time in 2013

Eventually, my sister was kind enough to have the piano moved to her home because it just took up too much space in our small condo.

My Mom’s grand piano found a home with my niece and she and her husband both enjoy playing it.

All throughout my childhood I remember my mother spending time on Sunday afternoons at the piano playing one piece after the other from memory. It was an oasis in her otherwise very busy life.

When my mother lay dying she used the blankets on her bed as an imaginary keyboard. She would ask me to help her find middle C with her thumb and after I did her fingers would fly across the bedding as she played her favourite pieces.

Other posts………….

My Mom’s Hymnal

Dorothy Marie Peters

Two Lessons From Mom

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Fear in Finland

Alma Pöysti and Jussi Vatanen in Fallen Leaves. Photograph: Sputnik

Dave and I saw the movie Fallen Leaves on Sunday at Winnipeg’s Dave Barber Cinematheque Theatre just two blocks from our home. Fallen Leaves is a Finnish film that tells the story of two lonely people who somehow manage to connect despite all kinds of complications and misfortunes.

A running subplot in Fallen Leaves is the war in Ukraine. Every time the two main characters turn on their radios they hear news about the conflict.

Since Finland is so close to Russia, its citizens worry about the danger they might face if the Ukrainians fail to defeat the Russian army.

The news regarding the war is constantly in the background during the movie Fallen Leaves providing extra weight and uncertainty to the daily lives of the film’s characters.

This aspect of the film reminded me of a Finnish couple we met at the small resort we stayed at in Zanzibar last January. They had jobs they could do remotely on their computers so they decided to take a working holiday abroad because they needed a break from the constant tension they felt in Finland which shares a border with Russia. If the Russians were successful in Ukraine might they invade Finland as well?

The couple we met in Zanzibar felt that if Finland were to become a member of NATO they would feel safer, but in January when we talked with them that membership was in question.

Finland was accepted into NATO in April of this year but Fallen Leaves was filmed seven months before so the tension portrayed in the movie is very real.

Many politicians have warned that victory for Russia in Ukraine will have an impact on all the countries of the world. The people of Finland know that all too well.

Fallen Leaves by the way is an excellent film and won a jury prize at the 2023 Cannes Film Festival.

Other posts…………..

Zanzibar by Design

Ten Things I Can Do About the War in Ukraine

Hive- A Must See

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Pinching Zwieback

Listening to Mitch read at Proesetry an annual summer literary event he and his wife Jan host at their Jessica Lake cottage

Reading Pinching Zwieback a book of short stories by Mitch Toews in the last few days has been more like revisiting some old friends rather than diving into something new.

Many of the stories in his collection were ones he had sent to my husband Dave and me to read over the years or I’d heard Mitch share them with his audience at various literary events.

My friend Mitch reading at the McNally Robinson launch of his book Pinching Zwieback

Then in the last couple of weeks, I’ve had a chance to hear Mitch read more of his stories on three occasions- his launch at McNally Robinson Booksellers, a local author night at the Mennonite Heritage Village Museum, and a literary evening at The Public a Steinbach brewpub.

My husband Dave sitting to Mitch’s right was one of the people who interviewed Mitch at his author evening at The Public

So while many of the short stories in Pinching Zwieback were quite familiar to me what I found interesting in reading them collectively was how they had been sequenced to form a narrative arc that traced the lives of recurring characters Justy and Hart Zehen and their son Matthew.

They live in Hartplatz the name Mitch has chosen for a fictional place that is very much like the town of Steinbach where he and I both grew up.

In some of the first stories in the book, we get to know Justy and Hart Zehen early on in their marriage. We learn that Hart had a chance at an NHL career and that both he and Justy don’t quite fit the mould when it comes to the traditional way of doing things in Hartplatz.

My favourite of these early stories is Fast and Steep. It describes an intricate toboggan run Hart builds for his son Matt. The story gives us some tender observations about Hart and Justy’s relationship.

Another story I enjoyed was Fall From Grace, where Hart rescues Matt from the roof of the curling rink and we are given insight into the warm relationship between Hart and his own mother, Matt’s grandmother.

In the middle section of the book we discover some of the trials and tribulations Matt faced as a young boy growing up in Hartplatz but we also learn more about his parents. I loved Justy’s feistiness in the story The Grittiness of Mango Chiffon and in the story Breezy, we learn that Matt may have inherited his storytelling prowess from his father.

The book ends with stories that shed light on the relationship between Matt and his daughters Tess and Rosie and his grandchildren. They also help us to understand more about Matt’s family history, his relationship with his own parents and their struggles with alcohol, and his life with his wife Trudy.

The story that gripped me most here was The Narrowing where Mitch exploits the terrifying fear every grandparent experiences that something might happen to their grandkids while they are looking after them.

Mitch is an accomplished short story author with more than a hundred publications in literary magazines and any number of nominations for prestigious writing prizes. Reviewers have rightly described his stories in Pinching Zwieback as poignant, evocative, touching, humorous and heart-wrenching.

Having followed along as Mitch made the journey to becoming a published author I applaud his dedication and success and encourage you to buy your own copy of Pinching Zwieback.

Other posts………..

Meet Me At the Pub

Proesetry 2022

Wild Flowers and a Lost Camera

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Are You Going Grey?

I experimented with going grey during the pandemic but then changed my mind

You may have noticed in some of the more recent photos on my blog that I’ve started the process of letting my hair go grey.

I’ve tried before but always gave up after a bit and started colouring my hair again because I had some big occasion on the horizon or I decided I just wasn’t ready for the change.

A friend took me on a craft-making outing for my birthday just when I’d made the decision to start going grey

Somehow, turning 70 in October made a difference and I was encouraged by having a new hairdresser who told me my hair was a lovely grey underneath and would look good on me.

One of my dearest friends has grey hair and I think it’s beautiful

I asked my hairdresser if she could streak my hair to make the turning grey process seem more natural but she said that would be expensive and since my hair is so dark she’d have to really bleach it and that wouldn’t be good for it.

So I decided to just let nature take its course. My hairdresser figured the whole process would last about a year.

I have many friends who’ve gone grey and they look lovely and now that I’ve made the decision I’ve been noticing plenty of women I see or meet who have really stunning grey hair.

The group of ladies from my church I volunteer with once a week at a Thrift Shop have been particularly encouraging. They tell me I’m doing the right thing and give me compliments on my current two-toned hair saying it’s stylish.

When I was selling my novels at a Christmas Market a couple of weeks ago a grey-haired woman I didn’t know breezed by my sales table and whispered to me, “Have you decided to go grey?”

“Yes,” I replied.

“Good for you,” she said, “You’re going to look great.”

I hope she’s right!

Other posts……………

Fashion Statement

12 Reasons to Wear a Hat

What Happened to Brooches?

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What Made Yesterday Special?

Yesterday November 25th was the United Nations International Day for the Elimination of Violence against Women.

A Globe and Mail story reported that one woman is killed by an intimate or former intimate partner every six days in Canada.

44 per cent – of Canadian women report having been subjected to some form of intimate partner violence and are disproportionately the victims of the most severe forms of abuse.

Approximately 3,500 women and 2,700 children live in shelters for abused women every night of the year in Canada while more are turned away because there is no room.

The media coverage I heard yesterday about violence against women reminded me of something that happened in Canada just forty years ago.

Margaret Mitchell speaks in the House of Commons. Photo by Andy Clark -Canadian Press

On May 12, 1982, NDP health critic Margaret Mitchell rose in the Canadian House of Commons to address the issue of domestic abuse.  As a member of the Standing Committee on Health, Welfare and Social Affairs Mitchell had been hearing story after story from battered women who at the time had no legal recourse to hold their abusive partners accountable and no safe places in the community to escape them. 

During question period Margaret Mitchell asked the Liberal Minister for the Status of Women Judy Erola what the government was going to do to address this crisis.

“One in ten Canadian husbands beat their wives regularly,”  said Mitchell.  Hearing that the predominantly male House of Commons erupted in laughter.

Yes! Laughter!

Then Tory members of the house began to heckle Mitchell. 

Photo of Judy Erola Liberal Cabinet Minister- 1983 from the Toronto Star

Erola rose to tell the men she did not find their behavior amusing and neither did the women of Canada. She promised to provide funding for more transitional housing.  

Margaret then asked the Solicitor General to mandate that the courts treat spousal abuse as a criminal act. Of the more than 10,000 charges laid by abused Canadian wives up to that point only two had resulted in convictions. 

The next day Ms. Mitchell introduced a formal motion asking that the members of the House of Commons who had laughed at her and heckled her apologize.  It was defeated. 

What happened in the Canadian House of Commons in 1982 helps to explain why it was necessary to establish a day to raise awareness about violence against women.

It would be nice if we didn’t need a day like that. We can only hope that someday we won’t.

Other posts………

Silent Prey

Abusive Relationships and the Church

Violence in Christian Families

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A Family Connection to Joni Mitchell

Earlier this month I did a post about discovering I had a fairly valuable Joni Mitchell artbook in my possession.

Joanne Ewert a relative of mine in Saskatoon who is a faithful reader of my blog sent me a note to let me know that I had a family connection to the famous Canadian singer as well. Here’s what she said……..

You have an interesting connection or “claim to fame” to Joni Mitchell that you can tell people about! Joni’s first accompanying guitarist in her Saskatoon days was Edgar Hamm, a second cousin to YOU! Edgar’s mother (Ruth Ewert Hamm) was a FIRST COUSIN to your mother and grew up on the Ewert farm just 1/4 mile from your grandparent’s farm. Joni’s songs that were originally accompanied by Edgar were played in the prelude at Edgar’s funeral which we attended.

You know how they talk about that six degrees of separation idea……. that all people are six or fewer social connections away from each other?

Well, I’m only two degrees of separation away from Joni Mitchell since my second cousin accompanied her on his guitar.

Joanne also mentioned that there are tributes to Joni Mitchell in Saskatoon.

Photo of Joni Mitchell Promenade from a CBC story

I checked it out and there’s a promenade on their riverwalk named after Joni and also a plaque in front of the Broadway Theatre in her honour.

Photo of Joni Mitchell plaque from a Global News story

I am a frequent visitor to Saskatoon so I’ll have to go and see the promenade and plaque the next time I’m there.

Although I was able to find Edgar’s obituary online it did not include a photo or any mention of his connection to Joni Mitchell.

Thanks, Joanne for the interesting information!

Other posts that mention Joni Mitchell……….

Christmas Music That Saved Our Lives

The West End Cultural Centre

Costa Rica Inspiration

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The Holdovers- Remember Everyone Has A Story

Everyone has a story.

That’s what I thought of while watching the movie The Holdovers. It’s a film about a boy whose parents tell him he has to stay at his boarding school over Christmas. A teacher and a cook are assigned to remain on campus to look after him.

Dominic Sessa plays the student Angus, Da’Vine Joy Randolph plays the cook Mary, and Paul Giamatti plays teacher Paul Hunham in The Holdovers- Photo by Seacia Pavao  

All three of the main characters in The Holdovers appear to be cantankerous and troubled but somehow they forge a bond with each other that gets them through the holidays and changes their lives. As the film unfolds we learn something tragic about each of their backgrounds and that helps us to see why they may have become the kind of people they are.

Everyone has a life story that at some point has been marked by tragedy. Before we are too judgemental of people we need to consider what that story might be.

At my son’s university graduation many years ago Rabbi Alan Green from Winnipeg’s Shaarey Zedek Congregation offered a thought-provoking invocational prayer I’ve never forgotten. Later I asked him for a copy. This is a slightly edited version.

God help us to remember that the jerk cutting us off in traffic, might be a single mother who has just worked nine hours and is rushing home to cook dinner, help with homework, do laundry and spend a few precious moments with her children.

Help us to remember that the distracted young cashier who gives us the wrong change, might be a worried college student, balancing apprehension over final exams with the fear of not getting a student loan next semester. 

Remind us that the dishevelled beggar asking us for money on the street might be a slave to addictions we can only imagine in our worst nightmare. 

Help us to remember that the old couple walking at an annoyingly slow pace blocking the store aisle ahead of us, might be savouring the moment because based on the woman’s recent biopsy report, this could be one of the last times they shop together.

Remind us each day that of all the gifts you give us, the greatest is love. It is not enough to share that love with only those we hold dear. Open our hearts to all humanity. Let us be slow to judge and quick to forgive. May we show patience, empathy and love.

AMEN

Other posts…………

The World Would Be A Better Place If Everyone Was A Bird Watcher

And the Message of the Story Is?

Art to Inspire Inspired Me

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Ten Couples

Couple having lunch in Yunnan Province China
A couple of sisters- My husband’s aunts in the 1940s
A couple on the beach in Kota Kinabalu in Borneo
A scarecrow couple at a Fall Fair near Steinbach
A couple of cheetahs in the Serengeti in Tanzania
A couple of prisoners- My friend Esther and I at a museum in Arizona
A couple of the city founders in Rome- Romulus and Remus are nursed by a wolf after being abandoned
A couple of cousins. Sitting by the Christmas tree with my cousin Connie in 1954
Bridal couple at the Red Torii Gate in Japan
A couple of hikers- My husband and our granddaughter at Fort Whyte last week

Other posts……….

Behind Every Pair of Eyes

Chinese Thoughts on Marriage

A Kitchy Museum

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The House on Henry Street

Photo of our Henry Street house taken in November of 2022

I have been going on a kind of pilgrimage to visit all the homes I lived in with my parents. There were seven of them- four in Winnipeg and three in Steinbach.

The only one I haven’t written a blog post about yet is the house my parents built on Henry Street in Steinbach.

Mom and Dad outside the house on Henry Street not long after it was built

Together with an architect and contractor Mom and Dad planned the Henry Street house and we moved there I believe in 1965.

In 1973 our wedding reception was held at the house on Henry Street and this photo taken by Peter Dyck on that occasion gives a nice view of the backyard and garden.

Mom and Dad having breakfast on the sunny patio of the Henry Street House
My grade eight class. I am in the second row fifth from the left.

I was in grade seven the first year we lived in the house, went to Woodlawn School and was in Mr Melvin Toews’ class. For grade eight I transferred to the Kornelson School where the Cultural Arts Centre is currently in Steinbach and Mr Ted Klassen was my teacher, and then for grades nine to twelve, I attended classes at the Steinbach Collegiate Institute.

With my Reach for the Top High School Quiz TV show team- Reynold, me, Leroy and Herb

I was very active in all kinds of extracurricular activities at the high school- the school paper, student council, the Reach for the Top Quiz team, Glee Club and school musicals. I also took piano lessons and voice lessons and sang in the community’s Treble Teens girls’ choir.

Highschool graduation photo

I graduated from high school in 1971 and moved out of the Henry Street house to attend university in Winnipeg.

Wedding photo with my family on the yard of our Henry Street House

In the summer of 1973, my husband Dave and I got married at Grace Mennonite Church in Steinbach but had our wedding reception at the Henry Street house.

With my high school friends Deb and Shirley Joy on my wedding day at the front door of the Henry Street house

My husband and I were not the only couple to have wedding pictures taken in our yard on Henry Street. All around the house were flower gardens my mother had designed inspired by the ones in the yard of her childhood home in Drake Saskatchewan. Our Henry Street yard was lovely and many wedding couples asked to have their photos taken there.

My dad at Bethesda Hospital where he was a physician

During the time we lived on Henry Street, my Dad was a doctor at the Bethesda Hospital and our house was just a block away from the hospital so that was very handy for Dad.

My Mom planned and baked for and hosted many family birthday and holiday celebrations in the Henry Street house.

My Mom was active in the community too serving as a pianist at our church, for school choirs and countless musical festival performers. But her primary role during most of the Henry Street years was as the busy coordinator for all the activities of her four children as well as taking excellent care of our home, making our meals and planning all our family birthday and holiday celebrations.

Our family around the time we moved into the Henry Street House in 1965
Christmas in the Henry Street House – December 1978
Christmas in the Henry Street House 1980
Celebrating my Dad’s 54th birthday and my 29th in the Henry Street house in 1982

I have lots of memories of the time my family lived in the Henry Street house.

When I took this photo a year ago the house looked like it was still being taken good care of and I was glad I could revisit it.

I used the house on Henry Street as the setting for several of the chapters in my latest novel Sixties Girl.

My other childhood homes………….

My First Home

It’s So Beautiful- Our House on Home Street

I Lived At The Hospital

The Beaverbrook Street House

The House on the Highway

The House on Kroeker Avenue

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Such Great Questions

Yesterday thanks to a time difference between Manitoba and our neighbouring province, I was dressed and at my desk by 7 am to chat with Lindsey Ecker’s high school English class at United Mennonite Educational Institute in southern Ontario. They had just finished reading my novel Lost on the Prairie .

On Friday their teacher sent me a bunch of questions they had submitted about the novel and lots of them were really great.

Have you ever received critical feedback and how do you handle it?

I receive lots of feedback from my writing group

Yes I have. I belong to a writers’ group and I read all my writing to them and they often give me very critical feedback and although initially I admit it hurts a bit to hear it I also know that it is very helpful and has made me a much better writer.  

My publisher Heritage House has an editor named Nandini Thaker who goes through my manuscript with me many, many times and critiques each chapter, telling me about all the things I need to change.

Deb Froese

For my novel Sixties Girl I worked with a content editor named Deb Froese. She offered such excellent criticism. There were lots of things about my book that needed fixing.

Most of the book reviews I have received have been good but I did get a negative review for one of my novels from a newspaper and I was upset. But my wise communications manager Monica Miller said it was best to ignore it and not make a big deal out of it and focus instead on all the positive reviews I got. 

 I think writers just have to live with the fact that not everyone is going to like their book. And that’s fine. I think you have to accept criticism and see if there is something you can learn from it but you can’t let it stop you from writing. 

Reading aloud in the airport to a student

How many books have you read in the past year?

I’d say easily a hundred.  I read a lot.  I am the librarian at my church and I add a new book to the library almost every week and I try to read most of them before I put them in the library.  

I have lots of author friends and whenever they publish a new book I like to read it.  

When I am at the gym every day I read on the treadmill and stationary bicycle and I read lots on airplanes and in cars when we travel and then in addition I read tons of picture books to my grandchildren. 

Me and my Mom

Do you believe the spirit of people who die are still around us like they were in one chapter of your book?

Yes I do. I often think my mother’s spirit is with me when something good happens to me that I know she would be really happy about. If I am going through a tough time I like to imagine her spirit being close to me and it gives me comfort. I often speculate about what my Mom might think I should do when I have to make a hard decision.

How much money did you make writing Lost on the Prairie?

Well I get about $2.00 in royalties for every book and I think close to 2000 copies have been sold, so you can figure that out.

Book shopping while in Toronto for a writers’ conference

But in order to learn to write novels I took lots of courses, and submitted my manuscripts to competitions with entry fees, and went to writing conferences in different Canadian cities and bought lots of books about how to write novels and all those things were expensive.

Here I am with Naomi one of the interesting people I interviewed in South Dakota while I was researching my book.

And my husband and I went on a trip to South Dakota to do research for Lost on the Prairie and I hired an editor to give me a general appraisal of my manuscript and paid her.

Visiting a class in Holland Manitoba

I’ve traveled to different places in Manitoba to talk about the book.

So probably when you figure that all in I didn’t make any money at all. For most authors publishing your book isn’t a way to get rich.

What advice would you give to students who want to be writers?

Write something every day- whether it’s in a journal, an e-mail, a quick poem, or a blog entry. I keep a blog that I write a post for every day and hundreds of people follow it and so that keeps me motivated to write every day. I also write a regular newspaper column so that keeps me writing.

Reading is really important. Read all kinds of things but particularly read the kind of writing you are interested in doing.  If you want to be a journalist read newspapers and magazines.  If you want to be a novelist read novels. 

An autographed copy of a book by one of my author friends the wonderful Colleen Nelson

I read novels for young people all the time because it helps me be a better writer of that genre.  Read your writing to your peers and get feedback from them

The students had lots of other great questions and it really made me think about writing and my novels from different points of view.

A big thank you to Lindsey and her students. It was well worth getting up early in the morning to talk to you!

Other posts…………

Ten Lessons From A Writing Life

A Top Ten List From A Top Notch Speaker

Parents Don’t Let Your Children Grow Up to Be Writers

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