Television Talk

Before the pandemic, my husband Dave and I had busy social and work lives that often kept us apart for most of the day. We both had very different part-time jobs. We were each involved in a host of our own community, sports and service ventures, and we each pursued unique interests and passions. Although we had lots of friends as a couple, we each had our own circle of friends as well.

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Before the pandemic Dave and I did lots of activities with our own separate groups of friends

The great thing about being apart for most of the day was that in the evening over supper we had all these interesting things to talk about because we had both done such different things during the day.

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During our pandemic summer we went quadding and golfing together

However, during the pandemic, we have been together almost ALL THE TIME! Granted we’ve had some wonderful adventures together and our time cooped up in our apartment with one another has gone pretty peacefully and happily. But with our lives so intertwined, what do we talk about at supper now?

Our television shows! Dave and I have very divergent tastes in viewing preferences and so while he is watching a show on the television in the living room I am usually watching something completely different on the computer in my study.

Recently he has been intrigued by a series called The Walking Dead. It is not my cup of tea at all but Dave says if you can get past the brutal killing of zombies in each episode the series is really an insightful reflection on the meaning of life and is especially relevant to our current pandemic situation. He loves telling me all about it.

I have been watching New Amsterdam a Netflix series set in a modern hospital. Each episode raises one or more important issues in the health care field and while these problems are usually unrealistically resolved by the end of each show, I find the drama entertaining and thought-provoking. I love telling Dave all about it.

I have to admit I am looking forward to the end of the pandemic when each of us will once again be off pursuing our own activities and we will have had all kinds of interesting individual experiences from our days apart to talk about with each other at the dinner table, but until then we are keeping the communication lines open with……………. television talk.

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Dave and I just finished watching Borgen a three-season political drama set in Denmark. It is great viewing. During the series you follow the career of politician Birgitte Nyborg who becomes the Danish Prime Minister .

One point Borgen certainly drove home for me is how incredibly difficult it is for politicians to achieve a balance between their personal and professional lives.

Over the three seasons of Borgen, Birgitte Nyborg the Danish prime minister is busy negotiating peace agreements between warring African countries, trying to push through important environmental and social service legislation, staving off political enemies, visiting soldiers in Afghanistan, preparing for important speeches in Parliament and presiding over cabinet meetings.

Birgitte Nyborg the new Danish Prime Minister meets the press with her family

At the same time she must deal with a husband who feels neglected and threatened because of her powerful political position, a son who has a hard time adjusting to his mother’s hectic schedule, a daughter with serious mental health issues, a meddling father, her own health concerns and trying to sustain meaningful friendships. It isn’t easy.

Maintaining a work life and personal life balance is difficult in many professions but seems particularly challenging in politics and particularly difficult for women.

Seeing how Brigitte Nyborg handles all the crisis in her personal and political life in Borgen is realistic and engaging. It is one of many reasons I’d recommend this excellent Netflix series.

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Speaking To An Empty Room

I’ve been watching the speeches at the American political conventions. Almost all of the presentations are virtual and I think the different speakers are demonstrating varying degrees of comfort with trying to connect with an audience they can’t see.  It can be disconcerting. I got a little taste of what that was like on a recent Sunday morning when I spoke in our church.  I was at the front of the sanctuary behind the pulpit and there were exactly seven people listening to me. Due to COVID precautions, the only people in the building were those who were participating in the service in some way and they were spread out in the huge room that can seat hundreds of people.  I admit it was a little unnerving speaking to all those empty pews.  I knew people were watching me on their computer screens but I couldn’t see them. The experience made me realize how much I rely on my audience when I speak.  I like to look at people and connect with their eyes.  I like to see them smile or nod their heads when I say something that resonates with them.  I like to see them raise an eyebrow if I’ve said something they find questionable, or furrow their brow if they disagree with me. If they move a little restlessly in their seat I can guess that what I’m saying makes them uncomfortable.  

If they are looking at their watches it’s a sign that I’d better speed up or leave something out of my talk. If they are looking down studying their written program or a paper handout, or even checking their phones they are probably bored. And yes I even like to see when they have fallen asleep because then I might raise my voice or say something startling to wake them up.  

Many people kindly sent me messages after I spoke on Sunday to let me know they had appreciated my words.  That was good of them because when you can’t see your audience you really have no way of knowing how your message is being received.  

Speaking to a nearly empty room made me realize what an important role your audience plays when you speak. I am sure the many people who have done virtual presentations during the pandemic are realizing the same thing. 

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The Female Lead

I started following a group called The Female Lead on Twitter and I am so inspired by their regular posts that highlight what a different world we might have if women had been given equal rights throughout history and if women, instead of primarily men, were leading the world at this critical juncture.  Some of the posts are quotes from women that help us see things in new ways. 

Jacinda Arden the prime minister of New Zealand is being praised for her leadership during the current pandemic

I really rebel against this idea that politics has to be a place full of ego where you’re constantly focused on scoring hits against each one another. Yes, we need a robust democracy, but you can be strong, and you can be kind.

Jacinda Ardern

Michelle Obama photo by Gage Skidmore from Wikimedia Commons

Strong men, strong men, men who are truly role models, don’t need to put down women to make themselves feel powerful

– Michelle Obama

Ruth Bader Ginsberg- American Supreme Court Justice- photo public domain

When I’m sometimes asked when will there be enough women on the Supreme Court and I say, ‘When there are nine,’ people are shocked. But there’s been nine men, and nobody’s ever raised a question about that.

-Ruth Bader Ginsburg

17-year-old climate and indigenous rights activist Helena Gualinga holding the red sign in the photo. She lives in Ecuador.

A strong woman stands up for herself.  A stronger woman stands up for everybody else.  

-Anonymous

Vera Rubin- Photo from the Smithsonian Institute

There is no problem in science that can be solved by a man that cannot be solved by a woman.

-Vera Rubin the astronomer who discovered dark matter. She spent her life advocating for women in science and was known for mentoring aspiring female astronomers.

I raise up my voice not so I can shout but so that those without a voice can be heard…we cannot succeed when half of the human population is held back.

–Malala Yousafzai

Alexandria Ocasio Cortez

The idea that a woman can be as powerful as a man is something that our society can’t deal with. But I am as powerful as a man and it drives them crazy.

– Alexandria Ocasio Cortez

The Female Lead doesn’t just have quotes, however.  Sometimes they feature fabulous cartoons like this one by Lunar Baboon. 

The Female Lead has also introduced me to lots of women I didn’t know about who have done and are doing incredible things. Like…………

Dr Gladys West- photo in the public domain

Dr Gladys West one of the lead inventors of GPS Technology. She is known for her contributions towards the mathematical modelling of the shape of the earth and……….

Althea Gibson – photo public domain

Althea Neale Gibson who in 1956 became the first Black person to win a Grand Slam tennis title! 

I am finding that right now I need to make sure my Twitter feed and my other sources of social media are filled with positive, inspiring messages that give me hope.  The Female Lead fills the bill nicely.  My only criticism of the site is that I wish I’d see more Canadian women on its feed.  Maybe I need to send them some suggestions or maybe I need to start a Female Lead twitter page focused on Canadian women myself. 

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Will You Miss the Comments?

The Winnipeg Free Press has ended the practice of providing an opportunity for readers to make comments online after reading articles in their paper.  I usually read the comments in the Free Press and also in the other two daily newspapers I subscribe to.  I appreciate the additional perspective the comments offer me.  I do know that some comments are awful.  They are racist, contain personal attacks, are insulting and come from ill-informed or angry readers.  But there are also stimulating and interesting discussions that take place in the comments section. 

Photo by Hasan Albari on Pexels.com

The Winnipeg Free Press is not the first news source to make the decision to eliminate comments. More and more news outlets and newspapers are eliminating their comments sections. I read an article where representatives of seven different news organizations discussed their decision to remove their comment sections.  Here are some things they discovered.  

1. There were still plenty of comments on Twitter and Facebook when articles were shared on social media. This steered more readers to news sites than a comments section every had. Carefully selected articles highlighted and linked on social media received a huge response from readers online. 
2. Participation in online forums and writing letters to the editor increased when comments weren’t available.  
3. One news site that ended its comments section seven years ago has more than doubled their number of subscribers in that same time period, so it obviously didn’t hurt them. 
4. It takes a lot of time and money to have people moderate the comments section to eliminate irrelevant and inflammatory comments.  Those resources could be better spent providing more in-depth and broader news coverage. 
5. Some news services found that the same commenters were making hundreds of comments and that they didn’t have nearly as many unique commenters as they thought. Their number of commenters really only represented a small percentage of their reading audience. 

Photo by Suzy Hazelwood on Pexels.com

The Winnipeg Free Press says that in the near future they will be introducing other ways for readers to provide feedback and opinions and engage in discussion about articles in the paper.  As someone who has commented on Winnipeg Free Press articles in the past and who frequently reads the comments section, I look forward to learning more about these plans.  

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1619

My son recommended the podcast 1619 to me. It was an excellent place to start my quest to learn more about systemic racism.  The series aired in August of last year and won a 2020 Pulitzer Prize, the first podcast to ever be given the coveted award.

1619 is narrated by Nikole Hannah-Jones and I loved the way she interspersed incidents and people from her own life with the information she presented in each episode.  One of the stories she told was about a favourite uncle who dressed in red from head to toe for Nikole’s university graduation.  He was SO proud of her. He died of cancer at age 50 because of systemic racism in the American health care system. 

The podcast’s name comes from the fact that the first slaves were brought to America in 1619.  In an article in the Michigan Daily  Nikole talks about how every American schoolchild knows the name of The Mayflower the ship that brought the first Pilgrim settlers to North America in 1620 but few know the name of The White Lion which was the ship that brought slaves there a year before. 

Although you learn lots of history from listening to 1619 the thing I liked most about the podcast was the fascinating people I got to know. 

Angie and June Provost

People like June and Angie Provost, sugar cane farmers from Louisianna who lost their family farm because of systemic racism against Black farmers in the banking industry. They are fighting back and taking their case to the public so other farmers won’t have to experience what they did. 

Rebecca Lee Crumpler

People like Rebecca Lee Crumpler the first Black woman to graduate from medical college and become a physician in the United States. She had a practice for poor women and children in Boston but after the Civil War, she moved to the south to provide medical care to freed slaves. She was subjected to intense racism and sexism but remained dedicated to her profession. 

I can highly recommend 1619 as an engaging and eye-opening experience on the road to learning more about systemic racism.  You can listen to the episodes here.

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After Life and American Son

We just finished watching the first season of the Netflix series After Life.  It has received both critical acclaim and a resounding thumbs down from various viewers.  It made me laugh and cry and truth be told get angry, very angry at the main character sometimes.  

Starring Ricky Gervais as Tony Johnson it tells the story of a man whose wife has died and as a result, he has lost his will to live. Tony keeps watching videos of his wife and longing for the life they had together.  He really doesn’t want to go on without her.  Tony works as a reporter for a small local newspaper and the stories he covers had me laughing out loud they were so bizarre.  

But be forewarned Tony is caustic, foul-mouthed, insulting and downright horrible to other people. He simply doesn’t care, engages in all kinds of self-destructive behaviour and makes questionable ethical choices.

Tony is well down the path of utter callousness and impeding suicide but……….. the kindness of the people around him who genuinely care about him, finally breaks through in heartwarming fashion.  In fact, so heartwarming that my husband and I were compelled to give each other a huge hug during the season finale.

Actor Ricky Gervais with actress Penelope Wilton playing a character who helps Tony regain his will to live

There is a second season of After Life which we haven’t started watching yet and in a way season one ends things so well I hardly think there is a need for another season.  After Life reminded me a lot of the book A Man Called Ove by Fredrik Backman. We also recently watched the movie, American Son.  It stars the luminous Kerry Washington who I so enjoyed in the series Little Fires Everywhere.  The story revolves around a couple who know their son has been involved in some kind of incident with the police.  They are at the police station waiting to hear what has happened. Their brilliant talented son has been admitted to a first-class college.  He is black and they are terrified that like many other young black men he may have been the victim of police brutality.

But be forewarned that American Son is based on a Broadway play and has been filmed like a play. All the action takes place in the police station and consists of dialogues between just a handful of different characters.  In 2019 when the film came out it was criticized for being too heavy-handed when it came to the subject of racism.  In the current political and social climate I don’t think it would be considered over the top at all. 

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Has Fox News Made the Pandemic Worse?

On Thursday the top six stories on the front page of my electronic version of the New York Times were about the coronavirus and its continued wild spread through the United States. In addition, there were four links to op-eds about the virus in the sidebar.  

I checked the Fox News web site immediately after that.  Of the thirty-some stories featured on their main page, only one was about the virus and it was about Joe Biden making a gaffe when quoting the number of coronavirus cases in the United States. 

Sean Hannity

New research is showing that the tendency of Fox News to downplay the severity of the pandemic might be impacting the spread of the disease and the deaths it has caused.  A writer in the Washington Post says infection and mortality rates are higher in places where Fox News commentator Sean Hannity is the most popular. Hannity continually dismisses the severity of COVID-19. 

In an oped in the New York Times, Kara Swisher says some people have suggested possible legal action against Fox News because particularly at the start of the crisis they dished out dangerous misinformation about COVID-19 that might have caused their loved ones to die. 

In his commentary for the Boston public radio station WGBH, Dan Kennedy writes about what he saw one April evening while watching three of the top Fox News personalities do their shows.  Each reported on the pandemic in a variety of ways. 

Tucker Carlson

Tucker Carlson had Texas Lieutenant Gov. Dan Patrick as his guest.  Patrick had suggested that the United States re-open its economy and that seniors would be willing to die for a better future for their children and grandchildren.

Hannity was into China-bashing that night and praising President Trump’s travel ban on China, even though we have since learned that the ban was largely ineffective because it came too late.

Laura Ingraham

Laura Ingraham scorned the government’s COVID-19 bailout saying there were people who might make more money than they did before the pandemic and playing numerous clips from physicians claiming COVID-19 wasn’t that dangerous. 

I am not sure if you could win a court case claiming that Fox News has made the pandemic worse because of course people have the freedom to watch or not watch it and to make their own decisions about whether they believe what they hear. 

I check the Fox News website every day because I think it is important to know what a variety of news sources from a variety of points of view are saying but sometimes the experience is more than a little scary.  

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BIPOC, Discrimination, A Great Team and Little Fires

I learned what the term BIPOC means this week.  My son is the host of a weekly radio music show and this Thursday he featured music by black artists and gave specific suggestions from members of the BIPOC community about ways we can support them.

Mural on the wall of one of the schools I visit in my job as an education student mentor

The term BIPOC was new to me so I did a little research. The letters stand for Black, Indigenous People of Color.   According to writer Mahreen Ansari the term is a replacement for the phrase people of colour, which in turn replaced coloured people.  People of colour was a better term than coloured people because the people or human part came first.

Mural of children on Broadway Avenue in Saskatoon

The problem with the term people of colour was that it put all non-white people into one category when often the discrimination they were experiencing was very different and was specific to their particular race. The term Black, Indigenous People of Color is considered more specific but also more inclusive because it brings together people of multiracial backgrounds in a way that doesn’t erase their specific identity. 

The events that have unfolded since the death of George Floyd on May 25th make it clear white people like me have lots to learn when it comes to understanding what it means to be BIPOC in North American society. 

I visited one of the young women from this advisory group in Georgia

This week I have been thinking about a student of mine I visited in Savannah Georgia.  I was holidaying there and got together with a young woman who had been in several of my classes as well as my advisory cohort when I taught in Hong Kong. She was studying art at a college in Savannah.  She told me how challenging it was to adjust to life in the American south because growing up in Hong Kong she had never experienced prejudice and discrimination because of the colour of her skin like she did in Georgia.  It was a rude awakening for her. 

For some reason, a photo of me with my colleagues in the English department of the high school in Hong Kong where I taught has resurfaced on Facebook this past week.  People have been commenting on the photo and reposting it.  It reminded me of how incredibly privileged I was to work with these four strong, intelligent and gifted women.  We all came from different countries, had many different life experiences and were different ages, but we were such a good team and I learned so much from each one of them.   What a perfect way to end my teaching career. 

Dave and I just finished watching the new television series Little Fires Everywhere based on the novel of the same name by Celeste Ng.   I found the story thought-provoking and timely. The setting for the story is an Ohio town called Shaker Heights which prides itself on its racial integration. But as the story progresses we realize that racism is still all too real in the community.  The acting performances of  Reese Witherspoon and Kerry Washington are masterful. They play two mothers who have made very different choices about how to live their lives and raise their children and the reasons for their choices raise some important moral and ethical questions.  I’d like to read the book now. 

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Photo from Niigaan Sinclair’s Twitter page

I faithfully read Niigaan Sinclair’s columns in the Winnipeg Free Press and think it is important the paper has an indigenous columnist who can help facilitate the journey toward reconciliation in our province. Most of the time I find Mr Sinclair’s columns troubling and difficult to read.  They can make me sad, force me to ask hard questions and inspire frustration.  

As I scroll through the comments readers post about Mr Sinclair’s columns I am often shocked and startled by their tone of venom, exasperation and brusqueness. Those feelings are directed both towards Mr Sinclair in particular and indigenous people in general.  It only points out why it is so necessary to have Mr Sinclair’s columns in the paper.

 Today’s column, however, is the kind I wish could be written more often.  It is full of good news. Mr Sinclair writes about non-indigenous and indigenous people working together to help provide shelter for homeless folks during the pandemic, about indigenous filmmakers being celebrated and the positive impact a Metis educator has had on the lives of thousands of students. I wish Mr Sinclair could write those kinds of columns more often but I understand why he can’t. 

Felix has a pet gerbil named Horatio and he sorely misses his beloved Grandma who has died. He has two bright and interesting best friends and they work on the newspaper staff at his French immersion school in Vancouver together. Both of Felix’s parents are artists.  He lives with his Mom and sees his Dad a couple of times a year. He’s a whiz at answering questions on a television quiz program he loves to watch. He has amazing powers of observation, has developed ingenous categories for different kinds of lies and……………..he’s homeless. Felix and his mom live in a van they have “borrowed” from his Mom’s old boyfriend.  

I just finished reading the novel No Fixed Address by Susin Nielsen. She introduces the issue of homelessness and mental health to her middle-grade readers with an endearing main character.  It’s simply impossible not to like Felix who is kind, resourceful, intelligent and perceptive. Felix’s mother Astrid struggles with serious mental health issues and while I felt sympathy for her, I just kept getting angrier at her as I read the book.  Astrid LOVES her son but she constantly makes choices that place him in jeopardy. She refuses to get help and manages to alienate most people who offer assistance. 

There is a line in the book that made me really think and ask lots of questions. Felix has just had lunch with his Dad and comes to the realization that while both his mother and father are “really great people they are not great parents.” How many children have that experience?   

Felix keeps track of the items his Mom has stolen in the hopes that someday he will have enough money to pay back the stores she has robbed.

I enjoyed No Fixed Address but did wonder if some of the lifestyle choices it describes including theft and sex for money might not make the book better suited for an audience that is just a little older. I had read Susin Nielsen’s book Word Nerd previously.  It was published in 2004.  As I turned the pages of No Fixed Address the similarities between the two books were uncanny.  Both have been very popular, so Susin Nielsen obviously knows a winning formula when she finds one. 

My book club read No Fixed Address and so I can assure you that not just kids but adults find the book a good read and a good discussion starter. 

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