Heather Plett is a life coach I follow on social media. On New Year’s Day she did a Facebook post encouraging readers not to pledge to be shinier, happier, better versions of themselves. Instead she wrote….Let’s just pledge to be real and messy and honest. Then Heather asked her followers to share a non-shiny version of their first day of 2017. I decided to try that especially in light of a comment someone made over the holidays regarding my tendency to always look on the positive side of things rather than be realistic. So here is an honest gritty version of my start to 2017.
We spent New Year’s Eve in a pretty seedy hotel in Albuquerque New Mexico on our journey to Phoenix Arizona. My husband who had made the reservation said the hotel had received a four star rating on Trip Advisor but the threadbare towels, lack of security lock on the door, beat up woodwork and a loud rattling heating system that either left the room boiling or freezing belied the fact. Dave and I had a little dust-up soon after we arrived. We discovered we had left the cord to plug in Dave’s I-pad in our hotel room in Colorado the night before. We both thought the other person should have remembered it and Dave was only slightly less upset by my supposed negligence when we were able to find a replacement cord at Walgreens. It was $22 and after Dave made a sarcastic comment about the cost I retorted I wouldn’t order any food at dinner to make up for the $22. I stuck to my word but Dave got a pizza for dinner which he shared and he even ordered a glass of Pinot Grigio for me. The alcohol helped ease some of the tension crackling between us.
Naturally there was no coffee available in the hotel lobby as promised on New Year’s morning so we set out in search of some, only to realize that on New Years Day almost everything was closed so we drove on without coffee. About half way through the morning we encountered a blinding snowstorm. We crawled forward in a long line of cars on the icy, curvy, steep mountain roads. It was pretty intense! Things weren’t improved by the fact that Dave had a throbbing toothache. It’s been an ongoing issue that I thought he should have taken care of before we left home so I wasn’t very sympathetic. We decided to listen to the new Leonard Cohen CD I bought Dave for Christmas. I wanted to have a discussion with him about what the lyrics meant but he said as a former high school English teacher I should be able to figure out what the lyrics meant without his help. We didn’t talk much after that.
When we got to Phoenix our GPS went crazy and kept wanting us to turn left at places where there was no road just rocky areas of cacti. Finally we stopped at a Starbucks to go online and look at a map to take us to the house we have rented. Soon after we arrived Dave realized he had forgotten to bring his hair cutting clippers. He said he had put the clippers out on our bathroom counter at home so he would remember to pack them but someone must have put the clippers away before he could put them in the suitcase. Dave spent the evening watching American football on TV while I unpacked our luggage and all the groceries from my first visit to the nearby Basha’s store. I forgot to buy toilet paper.
Lots of good things happened today too but I am going to grit my teeth and not mention them in this post. How did I do with being real and messy and honest?